Tom writes about alcohol-free dating, modern relationships, and what single life actually looks like when you've decided not to drink. Direct, warm, and entirely without preachiness.
Tom Sutherland has spent more than twenty years in health and lifestyle publishing, covering relationships, men's health, and the social shifts that reshape how people meet and connect. He stopped drinking in his early forties — not as a dramatic turning point, but as a quiet decision that stuck — and quickly discovered how little of the dating world was set up for someone who didn't want alcohol at the centre of every first encounter.
He joined Sober Singles as Senior Editor because the site fills a genuine gap. There are plenty of people — in recovery, never-drinkers, the sober-curious, the health-conscious — who want to meet someone without the ritual awkwardness of "why aren't you drinking?" His writing addresses the practical questions that come with that territory: how to write a profile that's honest without being heavy, how to suggest a first date that doesn't revolve around a bar, how to have the conversation early without making it a bigger deal than it needs to be.
Tom writes for the Sober Singles blog and sets the editorial tone for how the site talks about alcohol-free dating — not as a story of struggle or redemption, but as a reasonable, ordinary choice that a growing number of people are making, often quite happily.
"The question people ask most is whether you have to explain yourself on a first date. The answer is: not really, no. You can order a tonic water, enjoy your evening, and decide later whether this is a person worth having that conversation with. The beauty of a sober dating site is that the conversation has already happened — at least at the beginning. You're among people who already get it."— Tom Sutherland, Senior Editor, Sober Singles
Sober Singles is the dating site for people who want to connect without alcohol being part of the script.
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